This is my brilliant, blue-eyed, beloved valentine.
We’re not even a year into our marriage, so if anyone were to ask me why I'm so enamored with him, I’d likely begin extolling the virtues of flowers, champagne, foot rubs, and him telling me how pretty I am.*
So yeah, perhaps we should check in with some folks with a bit more mileage on their relationships.
* We're actually pretty good at high doses of affection and support and affirmation, while having a serious respect for each other's independence.
LUANN + EVAN
She’s a probation officer.
He’s a propane gas technician.
He says that back in ’78, she moved the family to a new house without telling him while he was on the road in an 18-wheeler.
She insists she told him.
Despite that, they’re pushing 42 years of marriage, so let’s see what they've got to say…
“Lovin' 'em or leavin' 'em” has nothing to do with marriage. Marriage is a scam perpetrated by bridal shops, religions, and their surrogate, the state.
Marriage can last a long time if you land someone who can make a damn good Manhattan! Manhattans make everything look much prettier.
CHRIS + STEVE
After her mother, Chris is the best piano teacher you'll find.
Steve is the best dentist in town.
Together they’ve travelled the world (like, everywhere, I swear) while raising three overachievers.
Steve says he memorized two words: “Yes, Dear.”
And he says, "Don't read books on parenting; just wing it.”
Seriously. How have we gotten to 28 years together?! Cracks us up!
I’d say it’s their sense of humor. Their firstborn is already a PhD and an MD, so I think we can say they did okay, yeah?!
CLARENCE + JENNY
When they're not loving-up on their gorgeous new baby, Jenny and Clarence are smashing their professional goals left and right.
Jenny is a business analyst and digital strategist, and oh just happens to do a bit of modeling in her free time.
Meanwhile, with his latest venture, Upsie, Clarence is keeping us all from getting screwed.
Communication is key!
Be really honed in on how you talk to each other and WHEN you talk to each other. In our relationship, openly speaking about how we’re feeling in any given moment keeps us from making mountains out of molehills.
EDWIN + JOHN
John tears houses down to their studs and meticulously transforms them into shining beacons of charm and charisma.
Edwin does the same to your eyebrows.
The jury is still out on which one of them does a better Cyndi Lauper impression.
We are discussing relationship advice and already disagreeing!
Don't ever compare your relationship to someone else's relationship. You have no idea what goes on behind closed doors.
Edwin says patience is key, and I would add that a dash of insanity to continue being patient is imperative.
Be exactly who you are, always. It's not worth it to pretend you're someone you're not. (More so life advice than relationship advice!)
This is tricky, trying to dissect our relationship to figure out what's worked and what hasn't. It really boils down to chemistry. You cannot create it, it's either there or it's not. And I'd say that's probably the most important part... And something you have no control over.
Any go-to relationship tips to share? Comment below!